Wednesday, March 24, 2010

stop right now, thank you very much.

it always sounds so petty when teenage girls complain they are fat, or dumb, or ugly or unfortunate. it always sounds so unbelievable when beautiful, smart people say they aren't good enough. it's like "we know you are so amazingly good looking, and we know you ace your studies even though you don't study, stop rubbing it in and making the rest of us feel even more inferior!" it's so easy to dimiss other people's comments about themselves, but when you begin to criticise yourself - your own looks, your own intelligence, your own capabilities, your own talents, your own body.. it's something entirely else. suddenly, you start believing you are fat or stupid or ugly or untalented or unfortunate, and that the rest of the world are all so much better off than you.. especially that amazingly tall, skinny, blonde haired, genius (ha ironic isnt it?). and now you begin to stop believing when people tell you you are actually beautiful or smart or fortunate.

so heres the simple remedy...
stop focusing on yourself.
stop thinking about your insecurities
stop focusing on your hair,teeth,nails,eyes,skintone,boobs,legs,arms...
stop defining yourself by what you received on that last SAC
stop thinking you aren't good enough.

and start helping others. switch the focus to other people. start complimenting that tall, skinny, blonde haired, genius girl you hate so much, start performing random acts of kindness for others.

and then you realised, it doesnt have to be about you, in fact, it never was about you.

now Danica, take your OWN advice.

1 comment:

eeeniimsaj said...

Hi DANICA(:
how are you?? how's year 12??
agree with this post so much(:
thanks for the reminder. that is never just about 'me' but its about others around me(:
all the best for year 12(:
jasmine teh(: xx.